I'd lose all faith in tcma too if I let people change my mind like it was a shitty diaper. Especially since nobody can satisfactorily 'fight' using tjq.
The only thing that's for sure about tjq is that it's ineffective against skilled, commited fighters to such a degree that tjq players will resort to kickboxing and wrestling as soon as the pressure gets turned up to love-tap level.
There is no way you can train tjq and be able to apply your training against anyone except compliant dummies.
TJQ is the art of demonstrating badly.
Accept it and move on.